女生版第31封，停止说谎

It will be wrong to say that you can make someone
stop lying forever. You simply can't. But what you can do is make him feel safe enough
that he never feels the need to lie. If you can make him feel like you understand him
and more importantly accept him as he is, he will
never feel the need to lie to you about anything. Especially about things that matter. If you accept him and understand him, he will want
to open up and tell you the truth about about how
he feels about everything without even thinking
twice. No matter what you think about men, the truth is
most men also need security in their relationship.
They also want to love and be loved more than
anything else. But the problem is most women in their lives have
this habit of judging them and reacting whenever
a man truly open them. As a result of this, they
think it's just better to keep their feelings to
themselves and maybe just lie about something that
might make their girlfriends upset. Men want to share their feelings. (Even though society
says otherwise.) And depending on how the girl reacts to his honesty,
he will decide whether or not he should be completely
honest in the future. So whenever a man shares his thoughts, don't judge
him, don't get angry at him for thinking that some
other girl is hot, don't be mad at him if he sometimes
fantasizes about other girls. When a man tells you the truth, don't get upset. Don't
be mad at him for getting a beer with his friends after
work. If he prefers a couple of beers than watching
Glee at home, it's his choice. It shouldn't make you mad. Listen, I am not saying that he can do whatever he wants,
and you just become a doormat without any need and respect. If he doesn't respect you, you should leave him immediately. If he is lying to just get in your pants, don't ever call him back. But, if he loves you, and respects you, but still lies
to you because he is scared of your emotions, you should
try to remove his fears. And how do you remove his fears? By removing your fears first. It happens slowly. If their is insecurity in a relationship,
it can't go away overnight. But it can go away. Once you remove your insecurities, your partner's insecurities
also goes away slowly. Once you grow up, your partner also grows up slowly. I want you to start working on your insecurities
about men today. And the first step for that would
be to understand men. Even if you think you know everything about men, you
shouldn't stop learning. Maybe you were wrong about
somethings. Maybe you were wrong about everything. Hey, I am a man and even I don't understand men comletely.
Heck, whenever I get a chance to read about male female
psychology, I jump on it instantly. And the more I learn, the less insecure I feel about
myself. The more I grow personally, the better my
relationship becomes. -Kevin "Little Less Insecure" Thompson

这将是错误的说法，你可以让别人

停止说谎，直到永远。你根本就没有。但是你可以做的是让他觉得足够安全

他从来不觉得需要撒谎。如果你可以让他觉得你了解他

更重要的是接受他，因为他是，他会

从来没有觉得有必要骗你什么。特别的事情说事。如果你接受了他，理解他，他会要

敞开心扉，告诉你如何的真相

他觉得什么都不用想

两次。不管你想什么的人，但事实是

多数男人在他们的关系也需要安全。

他们还希望爱与被爱多

还要别的吗。但问题是，大多数女人在生活中有

这个习惯来看他们反应的时候

一个人真正打开。作为这样的结果，他们

认为它只是更好地保持自己的感情

自我，也许只是撒谎的东西，

可能让他们的女友不高兴。男人想分享自己的感受。 （尽管社会

另有说。），并根据女孩的反应，以他的诚实，

他将决定他是否应该完全

诚实的未来。所以每当一个人分享他的想法，不审判

他不生气，在他认为有

另一个女孩是热的，不要生他的气，如果他有时

幻想对其他女孩。当一个男人告诉你真相，不要生气。别

是疯了，在他得到一个啤酒与他的朋友后，

工作。如果他喜欢几瓶啤酒比看

吉利在家里，这是他的选择。它不应该让你发疯。听着，我不是说他可以做他想做什么，

而你刚刚成为无需任何和尊重受气包。如果他不尊重你，你应该马上离开他。如果他是在骗先手在你的裤子，不要老是叫他回来。但是，如果他爱你，尊重你，但仍是

给你，因为他是害怕你的情绪，你应该

试图消除他的恐惧。你如何消除他的恐惧？首先去除你的恐惧。它发生缓慢。如果他们是不安全的关系，

它不能走过夜。但可自行消失。一旦你删除你的不安全感，你的伴侣的不安全感

也消失缓慢。当你长大了，你的伴侣也生长缓慢。我希望你能开始工作的不安全感

关于男人今天。以及用于使第一步骤会

要了解男人。即使你认为你知道的一切的男人，你

不要停止学习。也许你错了

出头。也许你错了的事情了。嘿，我是一个人，连我自己都不明白的男人comletely。

哎呀，每当我得到一个机会，了解男性女性

心理学，我就可以马上跳。而且我越学习，越没有安全感，我觉得有关

我自己。我越长大个人而言，我更

关系变得。

-Kevin“少一些不安全”汤普森