Love is like a drug, and when one relationship ends many of us immediately start looking for a new one. However, life isn’t all about love. In fact, there are hundreds of experiences we can only have when we are single and solitary. Being in a relationship often makes every day look and feel the same, but when we break free from our addiction to love, we can develop new, fantastical, fulfilling emotions and encounters we never thought possible. For those of us who have just escaped a relationship, here are all the amazing, wonderful things you can do before you relapse into love.

爱情就像毒品，当一段感情结束后，我们中的许多人都立即开始寻找新的爱情。然而，爱情并不是生活的全部。事实上，有几百种只有在我们单独和独立的情况下才可以遇到的经历。有一段恋爱关系往往让每天看着和感觉都一样，但当我们摆脱沉溺于爱情的时候，我们可以经历新的，幻想的，愉快的情感和我们从不认为有可能的遭遇。对于那些刚刚逃离了一段感情的人来说，这里有所有在你重新陷入爱情之前可以做的惊喜的、美妙的事情。

Sleep

睡觉

As much as couples moan about how poorly they sleep without their partner sharing their sheets, you know how much you relish in having a bed to yourself. Now that you’re single, you get to sleep however you like: back-to-front, spread eagle, curled in a ball. Plus, there’s no one to complain about how you hog the covers. You can saw logs from midnight to noon — and you should.

看到许多夫妇抱怨睡的如何不好，必须要和他们的伴侣分享被褥，你就知道你应该要有多喜欢有一张只属于自己的床。现在，你是单身，你可以以你喜欢的任何方式睡觉：前后颠倒，舒展，蜷缩成球。还有，再没有人抱怨你独占被褥了。你可以从午夜到中午看小说-而且你应该这样。

Learn a Skill

学习一个技能

Time flies when you are in a relationship — and not always in the good way. No doubt you’ve often wondered how you could have possibly spent all spring and summer without accomplishing anything meaningful. Without another person to eat up your time, you can devote your energy toward long-lasting achievements:

当你处于一段感情中时，时间会过得很快，而且这段感情并不总是处于好进展时。毫无疑问，你经常想知道，你怎么可能整个春夏都没有完成任何有意义的事情。如果没有另一个人来吞噬你的时间，你可以把你的精力投入到持久的成就上：

Speak a foreign language. Knowing another language is eternally useful, especially if you choose one that is spoken in places you want to travel.

讲一门外语。会另一种语言永远有用，特别是如果你选择一门你想旅游的地方的语言。

Play an instrument. People rarely want to hear a beginning music student practice scales day and night. Singlehood is the best possible time to pick up a new instrument and learn the basics. Then, you can impress potential partners later on with your musical talent.

演奏乐器。人们很少会想听到一个开始音乐的学生白天黑夜地练习音阶。单身的时候是选择了一种新乐器，学习基本的最佳时间。然后，你可以用你的音乐才华打动未来潜在的伴侣。

Master a craft. Sewing, knitting, woodworking, and more are easy and productive, and you can give your creations to friends and family as lovely homemade gifts.

掌握一门手艺。缝纫，编织，木工以及许多其它手艺很简单并富有成效，你可以把你的创作作为可爱的自制礼物送给家人朋友。

Practice dancing. You don’t need a partner to learn to dance — you just need a good pair of shoes and a sense of rhythm. You can look in your area for open dance classes in any style: ballroom, Latin, swing, ballet, and more.

练习舞蹈。你不需要一个舞伴来学跳舞--你只需要一双好的鞋子和一种节奏感。你可以在你居住的地方寻找任何类型的舞蹈班：舞厅、拉丁舞、摇摆舞、芭蕾，以及更多其它的舞蹈班。

Travel Indefinitely

不定期旅行

You have always talked about backpacking and now there is no one holding you back. It is time to buy a one-way ticket to your destination of choice and explore until your heart is full of new places and people. Though it can be scary to set out on your own, traveling solo provides access to a number of lessons about the cities you visit, about the world in general, and about yourself.

你一直谈论着要来一次背包徒步旅行，现在没有什么能阻止你的了。是时候买张单程车票去你选择的目的地，在那尽情探索全新的地方和民风。尽管自己独自出发有点儿可怕，独自旅行会让你了解到许多你参观的城市、这个世界通常的样子以及你自己。

Grieve Properly

适当地悲伤

Sometimes, in relationships, you might have a tendency to hold back your true emotions. Thus, when something traumatic happens, you might not react the way your mind, body, and spirit need due to a sense of responsibility to your partner. When you are finally single, you have the time and space to deal with life’s tragedies in an appropriate way for you. Whether you must organize the cremation of a family member or survive a devastating illness, you might find it easier to stay sane while you are single.

有时，在感情中，你可能会有一种抑制你的真实情感的倾向。因此，当某件事发生时，你可能由于对你的伴侣的责任而不会真实反应你的精神、身体和精神需求。当你终于单身的时候，你就有时间和空间以一种适合你的方式来处理生活的悲剧。不论你是要组织一个家人的火化或与一场大病抗争时，你会发现当你单身时更容易保持清醒。

Understand Your Limits

了解你的极限

Oftentimes, coupled individuals refrain from taking risks — financial, physical, emotional — for fear that they will lose the love of their partners. Because you have no love to lose, you can PUsh yourself to the breaking point to understand how far you are willing to go.

通常情况下，有伴侣的人不愿在金融，体育和情感方面冒险-，因为害怕他们将失去他们的伴侣的爱。因为你没有爱人去失去，你可以把自己推到突破点去了解你愿意走多远。

Run a marathon, hike the Pacific Crest Trail, lift 300 pounds. Pushing your body to its physical breaking point will only make you stronger in every sense of the word.

跑马拉松，徒步旅行，太平洋冠径，举重300磅。在所有意义上，把你的身体推向生理极限只会让你更加强壮。

Scream, cry, laugh wildly, smile broadly. You will never know your emotional comfort zone if you don’t allow yourself to feel and express yourself.

尖叫、哭泣、疯狂地笑、满面笑容。如果你不允许自己感受和表达自己，那你永远不会知道你的情绪的舒适区。

Read holy books, meditate, connect with a spiritual community. Spirituality has been an essential human experience for eons, and you might benefit from developing a spiritual self.

读圣书，冥想，连接一个精神社区。

灵性亘古以来就是一种人类必要体验，你可能会从发展精神自我中受益。

Create Something

创造一些东西

Some people are driven by curiosity, others by aesthetics, and others still by free time, but nearly every person enjoys creating. Creating offers fulfillment like few other activities in life, and you should devote some of your single time to trying out different forms of creation:

有些人被好奇心驱使，其他人则被美学所驱使，而其他人则是被自由时间所驱使，但几乎每个人都喜欢创造。创造像生活中其他的活动一样提供给你满足感，你应该花些时间去尝试不同的创作形式：

Write a novel, short story, or poem.

Paint a picture.

Compose a song.

Experiment in the kitchen.

写一本小说、短故事或诗

画一幅画

谱写一首歌

体验厨房

Evaluate What’s Missing

评估失去的东西

Before you jump into a new relationship, you must analyze what went wrong with the last one. Perhaps the best way to do this is to spend some time discerning what you truly need in a partner, if anything. You should understand that there is a difference between qualities you need — those that fulfill emotional and physical deficits, those that make you a better person through contact — and qualities you want — those that are not essential to your sense of wellbeing. After a few months by yourself, you should have an idea of how a partner could improve your life, and you will be better equipped to fall back in love.

在你跳入一段新的关系前，你必须分析最后一段关系哪里出错了。也许做这个最好的方法就是花一些时间找出你真正在爱人身上需要的东西，如果有的话。你应该明白你所需要的品质之间有所区别——那些满足情感和身体需求的品质，那些通过接触让你成为一个更好的品质——和你想要的品质--那些对你的幸福感不重要的。单身几个月后，你应该有这样一个想法，即一个爱人可以改善你的生活，这样你会更充分地迎接爱情。